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Civility

July 24, 2010

I just got scolded by a friend for being rude to a 3rd party.  I was rude. But this feels like when everyone is passing notes in class and the teacher ignores it until YOU have it…and then only YOU get punished.

I was rude to a rude person…where I’d turned the other cheek many, many times.  And of course in this exchange I look like the a-hole and she looked blameless and baffled at my reaction.  Poor innocent her.

I guess the lesson is, you never get to stop turning the other cheek….but then the rude people get what they want all the time.

can you only react to rudeness with more rudeness? but then where does it end? do things escalate until you’re living on the relationship version of the Gaza Strip? Is this the same lesson as the movie War Games — “the only wining solution is ….not to play”?

I dunno.  My inner 3-year-old is kicking her feet. It’s not fair. It’s not fair.

One Comment
  1. phatbustahs permalink

    It’s not fair! I know exactly how you feel, and I say let your inner child kick away! Sometimes, when someone is rude to me, I am sickeningly nice to them just so that they look like a jerk. You could try that next time. Ah, spite. How lovely you feel. 😛

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